INTRODUCTION
What is ethics?
It means good manners or behaviors, customs and traditions, moral values etc. It is also known as etiquette.
Good manners can be divided into two categories;
a. physical (external) values
Moral values, commendable characters and principles are included in what is called spiritual values whereas physical values include movements, politeness and to dress properly.
Advance nations placed special emphasize on implementing these values. Some of them even institutionalized it in their state laws, especially for nations still in their democratic infancy/evolution.
Western nations place too much emphasize in physical values whereas eastern nations emphasizes spiritual values.
As for us as Muslims, we placed both values on equal basis.
Some might ask, why do we have to give so much importance in physical values when Allah only sees the spiritual side of us?
Correct......but that is for Allah, whereas mankind mostly judges a person by his appearance. That is why we must also give preference to physical values too.
A lot of subjects touch on spiritual values with its scope wide and profound such as Tasawwuf, Adab and Akhlaq.
As for physical values, it is sad to say that not many give special attention to it especially in religious schools, even though its implementation is easier with the motto of "as long as it is not filthy or dirty it is ok".
Not for showing off or arrogance but for the sake of raising the word of Allah by showing good manners and good morals.
Proper conducts and politeness have to be appropriated according to the situation, time and place and with whom you are associating with.
But it doesn't mean that it is permissible for you to sell your principles and religious values in order to conform to contemporary values and trends.
Even though there are a lot of interpretations as what is considered as good values, as long as it is based on good intentions the result won't be disappointing.
Ethics should be based on;
a. conscience
b. modesty
c. sincerity
We will start with what is generally accepted as good values in a community because of the diverseness of these physical values and the differences of its interpretation especially between western and eastern nations.
APPAREL/ATTIRE (DRESS CODES)
How should we attire ourselves?
We must first consider; the combination, its overall cleanliness and the situation.
a. T-shirt and boxers/shorts/briefs
- Only as undergarments and in the room.
b. Sarong (with a belt)
- The sarong should be secured with a belt so that it
won't fall off easily.
- Don't wear it too high or too low below the ankles.
c. Trousers/long pants
- Normal
- Teenagers should wear long trousers.
- With shoes.
d. Coat
- The dress code/combination to be observed when
putting on a coat;
a. trousers, shirt, coat, shoes (necktie)
b. sarong, shirt, coat, rimless cap (songkok), sandals
e. Rimless cap (songkok/kopiah)
- Choose one that is not too high or too short.
- Don't tilt it sideways when wearing it.
- Don't tilt it towards the face or the back of the head.
f. Hat/cap
- According to the situation and place.
- Don't wear a hat in the house.
g. Clogs
- Only for entering the toilet or the bathroom.
- Don't drag or make clomping noises when putting it
on.
h. Pajamas
- Only for sleeping, not for something official or when
welcoming guests etc.
Can we open/take off our shirts?
- Can, if you have to, but only if your own room.
What should we wear when we want to offer a prayer?
- We should be properly attired with clean clothes.
- Don't degrade ourselves in front of others by disrespecting
our rituals of worship.
What should we wear for wedding receptions etc?
- It is permissible to dress-up when attending wedding
receptions/gatherings.
When offering our condolences?
- Dress modestly according to the situation.
- Don't wear something extravagant or striking/glaring.
When attending official matters (offices etc) or sight seeing or receiving guests?
- Dress properly, modestly and clean.
- Torn clothes can still be worn if need be, on condition that
it has been mended and still clean.
DURING AN EXCURSION/SIGHT SEEING
1. Look straight ahead when walking, don't turn your head
left and right unless the need arises.
Can we look into other people's houses through the
windows?
2. Follow the rules of that particular country (e.g; driving
on the left side of the road as in most asian countries).
Avoid from using shortcuts when walking.
3. Guard your eyes from wandering wildly (like a thief).
4. Don't point your hand/fingers toward someone when trying to tell something. Not all people like to be pointed at. Use gestures.
5. When walking with a person older than you, walk behind
him to the side and carry his things if the situation
arises.
6. Don't walk about when in the bus. Sit properly and
adapt yourself to the situation.
7. Ask the person next to a vacant seat politely if the seat has been taken before sitting.
8. Don't be selfish and ignorant, think about other
passengers. Ask for permission first before smoking.
Offer your food when eating.
Don't spit just anywhere, think about those around you.
Throw rubbish in its designated places.
9. Offer your seat to older or younger or female passenger if
none is available (but with a pure intention). Help them
to carry their things if need be.
10. Cover your face with a piece of cloth or a handkerchief if
you have to sleep in the bus.
11. When booking a hotel room, ask politely and observe all
the designated rules and regulations.
12. When eating at a restaurant, order the food politely and
be patient, the waiter is not a slave.
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